All About Men

All About Men

How the role of the Man has changed. Traditional gender roles have faded away and men are dealing with the new expectations of masculinity in different ways. There has been a dramatic evolution in masculinity in the last few years which has contributed to men bottling-up emotions and not asking for help or guidance due to a feeling of being less than. On the flip side, the number of men turning to psychologists is on a steady rise. It has been said that the change in societal norms and roles have eroded the male self-esteem and sense of purpose. Traditional masculinity is about strength, assertiveness, providing – and this has changed.

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Another aspect is that men’s earnings and employment prospects have declined over the past decades. They are in competition with women for most jobs, making the workplace a lot tougher to navigate. Men have always been seen as the provider and breadwinner of the family. They had the careers and brought in the money. They made the big family decisions and took charge of their household’s lives. Perhaps this dynamic was not always healthy, but this is how it has been. These days, there is a division of chores. There are households where men do the washing and the cleaning, get the kids ready in the morning and cook dinners, while the woman goes out to work and is the breadwinner. The ‘new masculinity’ is about self-awareness, expressing vulnerability and communicating rather than controlling.

How Men interact with their children. Fathers enrich the lives of their families, their children and the mother of their children. Fathers play the role of a companion and playmate to their children. He offers a paternal viewpoint of caring for his child. Paternal instincts are different from maternal instincts, and how he interacts with the child is different than how the mother does. He is the teacher and more often than not he is a major role model. Most often, the father is the first and most significant male role model in the life of the child, and if that is the situation, he is then helping that child form their ideas of what it means to be a man in the household. Fathers are monitors and disciplinarians. They are seen as a protector.

How the youth of today have been impacted by the way their Fathers were raised. Outdated concepts of masculinity have proved to be dangerous for many reasons. In years gone by, young men have been taught that ‘boys do not cry’ and that they have to be tough and strong. Showing emotions or verbalising these feelings have often been viewed as a sign of weakness in a man. These characteristics are often passed down from generation to generation. There are demanding fathers who push their children to excel, with little or no regard for their children’s actual desires. Children of demanding dads may grow to be demanding parents who have little to no empathy for their own kids.

Then there is the distracted father who constantly works or barely spends time with his kids. An absent father leaves a void in his children’s lives that only he can fill. A child of an absent dad grows up feeling “incomplete”- and will really be challenged to close that hole. Men, ask yourselves: What is holding me back from being fully present in my child’s life and what changes can I make today to begin the restoration process? Failure to do so brings about another generation of adults who miss the mark in how they should care for and respond to their own families. Whether physically, emotionally, or spiritually.

Then there are the fathers who were raised by single mothers who go one of two ways.  They were either raised in a way that they understand the strength of a woman and what it means to be supportive of a woman and to open yourself up to others because that is what their mothers showed them.  They are then supportive of their children.  Or they grow up resentful and hurt because their mothers felt abandoned and end up abandoning their children in turn.

The contribution of fathers in the development of the youth is no small deal. When Father’s Day arrives, we feel obligated to call our dads, grandpas and other father figures to acknowledge how much we appreciate the things they do for us. For those who have lost that person, the day is one of reflection for what they taught us and the memories shared. Extensive research has shown that fathers make a world of difference in the lives of their children. This includes father figures who are emotionally invested and active in the lives of their children – at every stage of development. We all need to support the men in our lives and help them move forward in this new world, and the best way to do that is to start with the youth.  Young men learn by example and the best examples are those that  are willing to speak about the difficult topics. For all the men in our communities –  we urge you to find it within yourself to help mould the fathers of the future and help yourself in the process

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The Perfect Mother Does Not Exist

One day your entire life changed when you were put in charge of caring for another life. There are often certain pressures to be the perfect mother. This is common and may occur suddenly or during various phases of your kidslives. We understand the transition to becoming a mother is a vulnerable experience, both physically and mentally. It is only natural for you to want to do the best you can. Perfectionism can make you feel like a failure every day because you are not meeting the expectations you set for yourself, or that society seems to set.

When asking different Mothers what the Perfect Mother embodies, plenty of characteristics were highlighted, so the standard definitely IS different. There is beauty in this. What works for my home, may not necessarily work for your home.

Here is our advice for combatting the need to be the perfect Mother:
  • Make Peace with the Past: Sometimes something we lacked growing up is what we want to give our children so they “can have a perfect childhood,” or something we wished we had.
  • Avoid Social Pressure: Sometimes we look at our friends or others on social media and tell ourselves a story of what their lives may be like and – therefore – assume they are perfect.
  • Take Care of Yourself First: If your cup is empty, you are unable to pour love and support into others. There is no harm in taking steps to ensure you are in a good physical and mental space. You are then able to conquer the world – with your kids by your side. Have a look at a few tips we have provided in our previous blog Mom, Put Yourself On Your To-Do List!
  • Create a List: Reflect on memories and note which experiences have brought a smile to your kids’ faces. Yes, kids and their preferences change over time but a small gesture will go a long way. Communicate with your kids and add experiences or memories to your list that they have enjoyed.
  • Look for the Good: We are all trying our best at this thing called life. There are certain pressures kids face in their lives. Make it your mission to affirm their good qualities and appreciation for the little things they do around the house. This will build a good relationship between parent and child. It will also decrease the chances of being shut out from your kids’ lives (which may make you feel like you are not the perfect Mother).
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As a mother you carry your children forever in your heart so forgive and love yourself and that way you are free to show your children how much you love them.

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Having meaningful conversations

Having honest and meaningful conversations is what enables us to find common ground and engage with each other despite having different perspectives. These kinds of conversations leave us feeling better understood, more appreciated, and teach us more about ourselves as well as others.

With what the world has gone through during the pandemic, many people are feeling alone in a crowd and this has led to so many mental health issues. People are feeling isolated and unable to speak to others.

We are proud to introduce Scenario Cards. These cards were developed for people who wish to have deeper conversations with the people they care about. The powerful questions and prompts they contain will invite you to pause and reflect while feeling safe. The time to be gentle is now.

The Benefits of Scenario Cards:
  • Unlock the Impossible:When you use your imagination, you open up a dream-like state of powerful possibility. You may interpret the past in a new way. You may notice something you haven’t noticed before. You may envision a future where your passions are fully expressed.
  • Improve your Relationships: Transform how you connect with those you care about the most. Get closer through conversations that gently express what each of you values and why.
  • Awaken what is of importance to you: The mission is to help humans grow closer to their calling through deeper conversations. Self-reflection is the pathway to finding your passion. You are already worthy of doing the work that you would love to do in the world and these cards will help you find it.
  • Practise Gratitude: Instead of achieving more, what if you felt gratitude for what you already have and gratitude for who you already are? From a place of gratitude, it becomes much easier to amplify what you love.
  • Plan Your Career: Find the spaciousness to reflect upon what you really love to do. If you found the courage to listen for — and answer — your calling, what would that work look and feel like?
Types of Scenario Cards

  • Your Self: Look inward and get to know yourself better. Inspired by 4 topics: Personality, Wisdom, Potential & Happiness.
  • Your Life: Reflect on your life and set intentions for the time to come. Inspired by 4 topics: Time, Introspection, Intention & Resilience.
  • Your World: Look out into your world and take on new adventures. Inspired by 4 topics: World, Role Models, Adventures & Imagination.

Say goodbye to small talk and enjoy better self-reflection. Scenario Cards can be used anywhere. Pull them out at a picnic, the dinner table, the beach or even the car. The possibilities are endless! For every pack purchased, a tree will be planted.

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The Benefits of IV Drips

The days of only hospital patients receiving IV Drip Treatments are long gone. The future has arrived and many health-conscious people opt for this method to receive the vitamins, minerals and antioxidants their bodies require.

With IV Drips, your body receives nutrients directly into the bloodstream. This is done to bypasses the digestive system, which increases the amount of vitamins your body can absorb. The nutrients are instantly available, so your body can absorbs the maximum amount that can be, taking away the daily burden of remembering to pop a pill.

We’re here to help you avoid being part of these statistics! Improve your diet by simply adding more Fruit and Veg to your daily intake. These are the benefits:

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  1. Increasing Energy Levels by providing your body with a natural boost of energy. Vitamins and minerals help you replace the constant need for coffee, soda, and other caffeinated drinks that can otherwise flood your body with unnecessary sugar.
  1. Easing Anxiety and Promoting Relaxation by making your body and mind feel more at ease. IV Drips contain electrolytes that helps rebalance your system creating harmony within your body.
  1. Quicker Weight loss. Losing weight can be tough and therefore many people turn to IV therapy to boost their weight loss efforts. IV Drips provide additional amino acid that turns fat into fuel. It delivers fat to the mitochondria, (our cells’ powerhouse) to break them down and use them as energy. Certain IV drips also contain powerful antioxidants found in every cell in the body. This organic compound boosts your metabolism, prevents inflammation and eliminates fat-related toxins. It’s important to note that IV Drips for weight loss isn’t effective on its own. You should combine it with healthy eating and regular exercise. The drips strengthen your efforts but don’t replace them.
  1. Cleansing your body of toxins. IV drips contain cleansing compounds that remove toxins in your body, also free radicals that can damage cells and DNA. This slows down aging. Since antioxidants keep toxins and free radicals in check, the most popular options in IV therapy include:
    • Vitamin C: an essential antioxidant that protects your overall well-being and immune system. It also helps protect your body from free radicals by neutralizing them before they have the chance to damage cells.
    • Glutathione: fights off infections and cleanses the liver of unwanted toxins that can damage liver cells.
  1. Curing Hangovers. The nutrients in IV Drips help replenish the water you lost when drinking the night before. They also contain electrolytes, most commonly in the form of sodium chloride, which help relieve symptoms of dehydration, including fatigue, dizziness and thirst. Most people also choose to add an anti-inflammatory or anti-nausea medication to reduce the inflammation and fatigue caused by excessive drinking. Relief is generally felt after one hour of the treatment.
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IV drips are a great addition to a healthy lifestyle.  Eating healthy and keeping active cannot be replaced by anything.

Join us for a day of IV Drips, Healthy Snacks and Drinks on 12 March 2022!

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The benefits of adding fruits and veg to your diet

The benefits of adding fruits and veg to your diet

The sad reality is that the food we consume is becoming less and less natural. Our grocery stores are stocked with processed foods. These foods are filled with preservatives and additives that we don’t necessarily take the time to check for. The next culprits are yummy burgers and fries at our fast food outlets. These have been a huge contributing factor to the increase of obesity, heart disease, diabetes and other metabolic diseases over the last few years.

benefits of fruits and veggies

We’re here to help you avoid being part of these statistics! Improve your diet by simply adding more Fruit and Veg to your daily intake. These are the benefits:

  1. Great Sources of Vitamins and Minerals. They are filled with vitamins A, C and E, as well as magnesium, zinc, phosphorous and folic acid. One of the most important minerals for your health is potassium and can be found in avocados, sweet potatoes, bananas, prunes and even tomato paste puree.
  1. Variety of Flavours and Textures. Add some fun to your life by getting creative in the kitchen! Try pairing various fruits or vegetables together to experiment with taste and presentation. You may try strong flavours like onions, olives and peppers, or milder options such as mushrooms and corn. For sweet flavours, fruits like pineapple, grapes or plums are great, while lemons and grapefruits are more sour.
  1. High in Fibre. Most fruits and vegetables have plenty of fibre that will boost your gut health. This is vital to ensure your immune system is at its strongest to fight off any infections. Fibre-rich vegetables include, green peas, broccoli and cauliflower. High-fibre fruits include raspberries, apples and pears.
  1. Protection against Cancer and other Diseases. Fruit and Veg contain phytochemicals – biologically active substances that can help protect against diseases. By adding them to your diet, this can lower your risk of type 2 diabetes, stroke, heart disease, high blood pressure and cancer. Vegetables such as broccoli, and cabbage have been linked to reducing cancer risks.
  1. Quick and Easy. Many fruits can easily be grabbed as an on-the-go snack when you’re heading out the door. Make sure to thoroughly rinse before consuming them. Vegetables, on the other hand, can be prepared in a fraction of the time the average meal takes to prepare. Convenience is key!
benefits of veggies

Although it may take a little creativity, effort and an open mind to try new things – switching to a diet with more Fruit and Veg is definitely worth it! Remember, there’s a Fruit and Veg out there for everyone to enjoy. Why wait when you can stop by your nearest grocery store and some few Fruit and Veg for the week?! Your body will thank you.

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